Exploring the many qualities people look for in a partner.
Noticing the difference between values, interests and appearance.
Thinking about what matters most to you in a relationship.
Recognising that people have different preferences.
In this clip from Love on the Spectrum, autistic adults describe their ideal partner. They name qualities like kindness, intelligence, a caring nature and a sense of adventure. Some people share things they do not want, like smoking, gambling or drugs. Some describe how they would like a partner to look, like tall or with green eyes. One person says gender does not matter to them, as long as they are compatible.
The questions within this guide are designed to open dialogue and facilitate discussion around the relevant topics. It is up to the user to adapt as needed to best suit the person they are supporting. A neuroaffirming approach was central to the design of these resources and remains essential to their application. This means recognising and respecting the diverse ways people think, communicate, and experience the world, ensuring all conversations are led with curiosity, respect, and without judgement. These resources are a starting point. Trust your knowledge of the person you are supporting to shape the conversation from there.
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