Exploring what it can feel like to lose at something you have worked hard for or care deeply about.
Noticing how strong feelings after a loss can affect the way we act toward others.
Thinking about what good sportsmanship can look like.
Exploring how apologising can be hard, especially when you are still upset or unsure what went wrong.
Noticing how the people around us can support us when things do not go the way we hoped.
It is Sports Carnival day and Kyle, who loves sport more than anything, is preparing to race in the 100 metre event. Kyle loses the race to another student, Ethan, and in his frustration throws the finish line flag, shocking everybody watching. His teacher, Mrs Parides, bans him from the rest of the carnival for his poor sportsmanship and tells him to apologise to Ethan.
• What did you notice about the way Kyle reacted after he lost?
• Why do you think Mrs Parides made Kyle apologise?
• What do you think makes someone a good loser?
• What helps you when you feel upset after losing something that mattered to you?
• How can we support our friends when things do not go well for them?
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