Noticing that not always being able to name a feeling is a common experience, not a sign that something is wrong.
Exploring how feelings can show up in the body first, as physical sensations like tension, heaviness, or restlessness, before a word is connected.
Thinking about the many different ways a person might work out what they are feeling, including through images, music, movement, or a list of options.
Considering that appearing calm or flat on the outside does not mean a person is not experiencing something on the inside.
Reflecting on how taking time to identify a feeling is a valid form of self-understanding, not avoidance.
Exploring what it means to support someone who needs more time or a different approach to working out how they feel.
The presenter explains that some people find it difficult to identify or describe what they are feeling, even when they know that something is happening inside them. She describes how a person might notice a physical sensation, like tension or tiredness, without being able to match it to a feeling word. The clip explains that someone can appear calm or unresponsive on the outside while experiencing something strong on the inside. The presenter notes that needing more time or a different way of working out feelings is a valid experience, not a lack of emotion. The clip ends with the idea that patience, options, and space from others can make a real difference for someone who experiences feelings this way.
• Was there anything in the video that you found particularly interesting?
• Have you ever known something felt off without being able to name what it was?
• Where in your body do you tend to notice feelings first?
• What helps you work out what you are feeling when a word does not come straight away?
• Is there a way of describing or expressing a feeling that works better for you than using emotion words?
• What does it feel like when someone gives you time to work out how you are feeling rather than expecting an immediate answer?
• How could you let someone know you are experiencing something, even if you are not sure yet what it is?
• What could someone do that would help you feel supported when feelings are hard to identify?
The questions within this guide are designed to open dialogue and facilitate discussion around the relevant topics. It is up to the user to adapt as needed to best suit the person they are supporting. A neuroaffirming approach was central to the design of these resources and remains essential to their application. This means recognising and respecting the diverse ways people think, communicate, and experience the world, ensuring all conversations are led with curiosity, respect, and without judgement. These resources are a starting point. Trust your knowledge of the person you are supporting to shape the conversation from there.
For access to playback speed, transcripts or closed captions, please click the video title in the top left of the player to access the Youtube source where these controls are provisioned.
We are always looking to grow and improve this resource and would love to hear from you. Whether you have a suggestion for a clip or topic, a question about your subscription, or feedback to share, please do not hesitate to reach out.
Please also see our knowledge base for further information.
