Thinking about how masking can serve a purpose in some situations while also having a personal cost.
Considering how a person might develop different ways of being around different people or in different settings.
Reflecting on what it feels like to be in a space where adapting is not needed.
Exploring what it means to accept someone's natural communication style rather than expecting them to adjust.
Characters from the show 'The Community' are attempting to 'help' Abed meet a girl. They talk to Abed suggesting he try to be 'someone else'. They take Abed through a role play scenario. Abed takes on characters from movies.
• How do you feel about Abed's friends advising him to be 'someone else'?
• Have you ever adjusted the way you communicate or behave depending on who you are with?
• How did it feel in the moment?
• How did you feel afterward?
• Is there a person or place where you feel you do not need to adjust yourself as much?
• What makes that feel different from other situations?
• What could someone do to help another person feel comfortable enough to be themselves?
The questions within this guide are designed to open dialogue and facilitate discussion around the relevant topics. It is up to the user to adapt as needed to best suit the person they are supporting. A neuroaffirming approach was central to the design of these resources and remains essential to their application. This means recognising and respecting the diverse ways people think, communicate, and experience the world, ensuring all conversations are led with curiosity, respect, and without judgement. These resources are a starting point. Trust your knowledge of the person you are supporting to shape the conversation from there.
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