Noticing that people sometimes behave differently in different places or with different people.
Exploring what it means to feel like you have to hide or change part of yourself.
Thinking about the energy it takes to act in ways that do not feel natural.
Considering how it might feel to be in a place where you can just be yourself.
Reflecting on how the people and environments around us can shape how safe we feel to be ourselves.
The short film follows a young autistic woman throughout her day. Maria acts differently in different places, changing how she speaks and moves to fit in. At home, Maria is relaxed and moves freely in ways that feel natural to her. At work and in social situations, she works hard to appear the way she thinks others expect. The film shows the effort and exhaustion that can come with hiding who you are.
• What did you notice about how Maria acted at home compared to other places?
• How did Maria seem to feel when she was at home by herself?
• How did she seem to feel when she was around other people?
• Have you ever acted differently in one place compared to another?
• What does it feel like to be somewhere you can just be yourself?
• Is there a person or place that makes you feel comfortable being who you are?
• What might it feel like to work hard at hiding part of yourself every day?
• What could help someone feel safe enough to show more of who they really are?
The questions within this guide are designed to open dialogue and facilitate discussion around the relevant topics. It is up to the user to adapt as needed to best suit the person they are supporting. A neuroaffirming approach was central to the design of these resources and remains essential to their application. This means recognising and respecting the diverse ways people think, communicate, and experience the world, ensuring all conversations are led with curiosity, respect, and without judgement. These resources are a starting point. Trust your knowledge of the person you are supporting to shape the conversation from there.
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