Noticing that friendships can sometimes involve tension between personal values and loyalty to others.
Considering how Sheldon weighs up different kinds of rules, written laws and the unspoken expectations between friends.
Recognising that choosing to support a friend can sometimes feel like going against something that matters to you.
Sheldon discovers that his friends Howard and Bernadette have installed a spa on their outdoor deck. Feeling torn between his strong rule-following values and his loyalty to his friends, Sheldon goes to the city compliance office and fills out a form to report them. Sheldon decides not to hand in the report. He tells Howard and Bernadette that the unwritten rules of friendship matter more to him than the written rules of the planning department.
• What did Sheldon decide to do at the end of the clip?
• What do you think made it hard for Sheldon to make that decision?
• Have you ever had to choose between doing what felt right and doing something for a friend?
• What does it mean to you to be loyal to a friend?
• Do you think Sheldon showed that he cared about Howard and Bernadette? How?
• Can you think of a time when a friend did something unexpected that showed they cared about you?
• What is one thing you do to show a friend that they matter to you?
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