Exploring how the same conversation can feel very different depending on whether each person's needs are being met.
Considering what it might feel like to arrive at a conversation with a specific need and leave without it being heard.
Exploring how sharing a special interest can be more motivating.
Penny knocks on Sheldon's door wanting to talk to him. Sheldon immediately presents Penny with a list of topics he is willing to discuss. Penny tries to raise a dilemma about her acting career, but Sheldon tells her it is not on the list and declines to engage with it. Sheldon admits he is responding to feedback he was given about his tendency to force his ideas on someone.
• What did you notice about the way Sheldon responded when Penny raised her original question?
• What did you notice about how Penny responded when Sheldon said her topic was not on the list?
• Is there a topic that pulls your attention strongly, even when something else is being discussed?
• How do you notice when a conversation has moved away from what the other person needed?
• What might help you return a conversation to where it started after it has moved in a different direction?
• How could you let someone know what you need from a conversation when the other person has already set the direction?
• What could someone say if they felt their original question had not been heard?
• How do you prefer people to let you know when they need something from a conversation?
The questions within this guide are designed to open dialogue and facilitate discussion around the relevant topics. It is up to the user to adapt as needed to best suit the person they are supporting. A neuroaffirming approach was central to the design of these resources and remains essential to their application. This means recognising and respecting the diverse ways people think, communicate, and experience the world, ensuring all conversations are led with curiosity, respect, and without judgement. These resources are a starting point. Trust your knowledge of the person you are supporting to shape the conversation from there.
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