Exploring why someone might feel the need to change or hide things about themselves to fit in.
Noticing the difference between what Ronnie Anne hopes will happen and what actually happens when she tells the truth.
Thinking about what it means to be honest with friends about who you are and where you come from.
Considering how it might feel to worry that people will not like you for who you really are.
Noticing how Lincoln handles the situation and what being true to himself looks like for him.
Exploring how friendships can grow stronger when people are honest.
Lincoln visits Ronnie Anne in the city and she introduces him to her friends. Ronnie Anne has been telling her friends she is from the city, and she keeps stopping Lincoln from mentioning that they are both from a small town called Royal Woods. Lincoln realises what is happening and tells Ronnie Anne he is not willing to hide where he is from. Ronnie Anne gets angry and says hurtful things. Lincoln decides to leave. Ronnie Anne apologises and explains she was worried her new friends would not accept her if they knew she was not from the city. Ronnie Anne tells her friends the truth about where she is from, and they accept her just the same.
• What did you notice about how Ronnie Anne acted when Lincoln was with her friends?
• Why do you think Ronnie Anne did not want her friends to know she was from Royal Woods?
• How do you think Lincoln felt when Ronnie Anne kept stopping him from being honest?
• How did Ronnie Anne's friends respond when she told them the truth?
• Has there ever been a time when you felt like you needed to change something about yourself to fit in?
• What does being true to yourself mean to you?
• How do you think things might have been different if Ronnie Anne had never told her friends the truth?
• What would you do if a friend asked you to hide something about yourself or where you are from?
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